Hi.
I think the best way to deal with it at times is toi make a joke, my hubby still acts dissapointed when there is no post and takes great jopy in returning junk offers of loans and credit cards.
Some will depend on what is in your proposal if it states as mine 50% of any rises in basic income then you may get to keep half BUT a lot state all of payrises so then it would be all of it minus any extra travel or work related costs. We have a joint proposal and it is working very well.
My sympathy to you for the little ones problem, my neice had a similar thing ewhere she stopped breathing when shocked or hurt and just used to go blue and collapse , luckily she grew out of it.
All the best to you. Please do wait for other answers as I am only in the same position as you, but if I have any of it wrong someone will correct me .
Ang
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