Views on Aging

[kallis3]

This was after the funeral though - my aunt and my cousins and their families were sat down near to the exit in the memorial gardens and we all had to file past before we could leave.

[Foggy]

Yes, Jan, same as here. You file out of the hall (bottom right) and go up a covered path (about 5 or 6 metres) to the gardens, with priest first on one side and then the immediate family. I have been both in the line and passing the line myself over the last few years -- and both are just wierd !!!

[Julie]

I've only been to 2 services at crems and both had the immediate family "receiving" the "guests" - I found it weird and didn't know what to do or say.[:0][:I]

[kallis3]

I'd never done it before and it didn't happen last year when my cousin died - to be fair though, that was a burial.

What do you say Julie? It's one thing to chat at the wake afterwards but to try and find something to say as you walk along a line it is really hard.

[Julie]

My dad in law is the local minister so he told me to just say how sorry I was and shuffle on ....he does have a wicked sense of humour so not sure if this is right [:0][:D]

[Foggy]

Just the usual "Lovely service, vicar", then just nod, shake hands or kiss the relatives ... no need to say anything.

[kallis3]

I think you feel obliged to say that you are sorry for their loss - a bit like the congratulations at a wedding.

[Skippy]

Thankfully I've never had to do that! I've never been to a wedding with a receiving line either, and there certainly won't be one at my wedding! Let's just say it wouldn't work when the bride is planning on ignoring one of the guests completely!

[Julie]

[:D] may be worth doing just so you could "ignore" a certain guest in style Skip [:D]

[kallis3]

All the weddings I have been to have had receiving lines, including my first one! Didn't do it at the second one though.

That could make for an interesting reception Skip!

[Skippy]

Oh believe me, I'd love to! Unfortunately it's Dave's daughter in law, and I hate her - I don't normally hate people as it's a waste of energy, but I'll make an exception for her! I've told Dave that if she comes I won't speak to her or even acknowledge her presence - luckily he feels the same, but he's got more tact than me!

[Foggy]

I think you feel obliged to say that you are sorry for their loss - a bit like the congratulations at a wedding.

Could be embarrassing if you forgot which you were at and congratulated the bereaved!!

[kallis3]

[:D][:D]

I think the give away might be the colour of the clothes and the copious amounts of tears.

Then again...................