Your IP appears to be making decisions that really are within your creditors domain, but she clearly feels that she is doing the right thing. She should be giving you guidance, but not dictating the costs, which are for you to put to your creditors as a revised proposal given your circumstances.
The key to knowing whether she is right or wrong lies in the IVA proposals and associated terms and conditions. Read through them again and remind yourself what they say about the property, and what was going to happen when it was sold.
The sort of costs that I would be prepared to recommend to creditors in your circumstances are up to 6 months rental deposit, removal costs, the purchase of any essential applicances and furniture (only if your own equipment will not suffice), the cost of new items if you are separating - in your case this is relevant - kenneling and cattery costs if necessary - but does your new landlord allow pets? and temporary storage costs for your furniture. I have put forward many similar proposals over the last few years on this basis, and the allowances have generally been acceptable to creditors.
The problem in your case is that your proposal sets a fait accompli. The proposal is yours, not your IP's and you cannot now complain about something which you agreed to and signed up to - including the £3,000 allowance. How did you think that you were going to cope with this figure when you agreed to the proposals? The regulatory bodies will not entertain complaints like this I am afraid, as you contractually agreed to enter into this arrangement and had a choice at that time to say yes or no.
With regard to your daughter's education, again you clearly agreed to take her out of the private system, so it is difficult to see whey creditors would now agree to fund the cost of her return.
I appreciate that this is not really the response you probably want, and I would urge you to insist that your IP puts forward the variation you instruct her to submit. If she doesn't agree with it she doesn't have to recommend it at the end of the day.
Your creditors are reasonable people, and if your argument is put forward appropriately, there is no reason why they would not accept higher but reasonable expenditure that can be justified.
Regards, Melanie Giles, Insolvency Practitioner for over 20 years.
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