Being a Parent & Bullying

[Hayley.gb]

Thanks Martine, I'm glad to hear that your son has been able to move on from his bullying. It is appauling that the schools don't even care about the welfare of the children after the event. Hoping to hear very soon of an appeal date for Charlotte's new school, then hopefully we can all gradually return to some form of normality.

[MrsKnight]

Sorry Ive just picked up on this.

Wizz, I know how you feel my own bully story seems very similar to yours. Some of my bullies continued to bully me into my early 20s, I could not go on a night out with my friends without something happening or being said. One of my worst experiences was I was surrounded by 1 bully & 5 of his mates & they just made fun of me & called me all sorts. Worst thing was I could not get away, my friend had to crawl in between their legs to get in & pull me out.
Bullying did me alot of harm, I still struggle with self worth & self esteem & confidence, just writing this is making me tearful.

Hayley - I hope you & your daughter get the support that you should be having, I would do exactly the same, I would not care if they took me to court for not sending my children to school if they were being bullied to that extent. Stand your ground hun, let me know how you get on x

Martine: Im sorry to hear about your troubles too, I hope your son is happier in his new school & he can over come what he has been through.

Update on my situation: I bumped into the mother on the street & as always Im polite n had a informal chat. She brought up the subject of her children & apologized & they have had words with them. She was appalled at the language they had been using, she was very grateful for bringing it to their attention. And since then we have had no problems, but my boys will not play with them anymore & when they see me they cross the road!
Ive not got to find out what going on at school with my youngest as he has been having some problems with older children punching him.

[Hayley.gb]

Mrs Knight glad to hear that the parents seem to have sorted their children out, but sorry to hear about your youngest son, it makes you wonder if there are any nice children out there doesn't it. Also, I know how you feel about your self esteem and confidence issues, I was in a violent relationship in my mid teens and although I wasn't bullied at school the issues carried on into my early adulthood and further. Sometimes I wonder if it is my issues that I have somehow passed onto my children.

However, like you, we as moms will not allow our children to go through the same things as we did without a fight, wouldn't you agree?

[MrsKnight]

I completely agree hayley Hun, Im sorry to hear you went through a violent relationship, I've no personal experience of one but had to go through watching sister go through one, which became a real mess of child protection, court orders & restraining orders that ended up incourt. So I've been on the out side looking in on something you went through.
I think we have to gain strength from what we have been through & put it to good use, other wise it can break a person. You have to look back n think well I got through that, I can get through anything. We can guide our children watch & wait to see how they handle things, but when we can't see what is going on & no one seems to care then yes we must jump in & I always will. I will always encourage them to stand up & be counted, my policy has always been if I am in the wrong I will admit it, say so & apologize, if I am in the right, I always stand my ground.

Don't know if this helps Hayley, I hope it does Hun xxxx
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