I am 37 & my husband is 41 and we have 3 children, the oldest one is doing her A levels.
We feel such a failure to be in this trouble at this age and when everyone else has paid their mortgages off, here we are with loads of debt and no light at the end of the tunnel, and no house to show for it! The reason we got into debt was that we only had one wage coming in, just over the benefit level, for nearly 13 years whilst the children were young, I did not work, there was no-one to look after them. I went back to college and got a good job in the NHS, (I work part-time) but because we have consolidated our debts over the years, it has finally all come to a head! I think I must have known we could not carry on as we were, I had a time last year when I was soo stressed and am on anti-depressants, and now everythings finally having to be sorted, I guesss I might feel better once we know which way we have to go, (IVA or bankruptcy)!!