Hi Ida. I too have only caught up with this thread but can only echo the sentiments of the other posters. Appears Payplan are being supportive and sympathetic and hopefully they can resolve the financial side for you relatively quickly. This will enable you and your husband to concentrate on his health alone without the overhang of the IVA.
Thank you all so much.Jes, he's ok? He recovered? I have been petrified.
THANK YOU, to all of you.
I had a hissy fit today, it's not me but I did, the consultant who saw him Friday has passed nothing on no tests requests or the oncologist, his secretary is on holiday this week.
I hate the strong me, but we have a promise of an appointment and swift action next week, not what I wanted but at least a start.
Ida, I don't blame you for having a go - I would have done the same.
I hope the appointment goes ok next week and let us know how things go.
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Yes - he recovered and now he's absolutely fine. He has a fine scar to show off, but no problems since. I know it won't be a walk in the park for your hubby, you or your kiddies, but if it's the same as my dad's, then it is treatable. Horrific thoughts go through your head when the "c" word is mentioned don't they? They did through mine! When he told me I walked around in a daze for a week (after the tears and the fear), completely in shock. I guess you must be feeling the same. It is horrible having to put on a brave face, when all you want to do is collapse in a heap. But you do find a will you never knew you had; having to deal with the IVA thing at the same time would test even the strongest of us and I can only admire you for finding that kind of strength. I really do hope you can sort out the IVA part so you only have to concentrate on your hubby!
Keep on at the docs!
Julie x
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I know I keep saying thank you but it is heartfelt.
I haven't even given the individual thanks to the kindness of people that are deserved.
Yesterday I had thw worst time of my entire life and I am not exaggerating.
Terror paralysed me. Pessimissm. It was almost as if I had already lost him I felt that low, I cried all day, mostly visibly and then around the children, just on the inside.
Today I decide I am going to do something and I find that an entire oncology dept (or so it seems) has no communication because one secretary is on holiday.
Is that reasonable? Drop a bombshell one day and leave people dangling for a wek because someone is on holiday?
I think that's disgusting. I work in a sales department and if I'm going on holiday I have to make sure my colleagues know of any outstanding issues. My job doesn't effect peoples' lives, so I can't understand why an oncologist can just go away with no back up in place.
That will work Ida[:D]
It is good to get angry sometimes, helps release the tensions and it is not unreasonable to expect a better service.
Make you views know there, after all, it is only the squeaky doors that get oiled. (God I am starting to sound like Confucius. [;)])
hope tomorrow brings a better day hon.
x
Never take a moment or a loved one for granted in the blink of an eye they may be lost forever.
Some part of my rant consisted of "it's nice for people to go on holiday, I don't mind holidays, I'd like one but I can't.............................see my husband has cancer and it's not getting any better here either!"
That is not how I act, not how I speak to people, but today it was.
Tell him that last Friday and then nothing, nothing at all?
It really is bad that you have to get angry before these people do anything.
My father was diagnosed with skin cancer and a smiliar thing happened, he was told he'd go for a biopsy and ring that dept in a few days is he hadn't heard, they knew nothing about it, the consultants secretary kept saying they'd sent it and he went from pillar to post and back again several times.
In the end he asked to speak to the Chief Executive of the hospital trust and by the end of that day he had all his appointments!
Good on you for sticking up for yourself and your husband and I hope they get things moving quickly now.
Wishing you all the very best
When I have to go on holiday, I have to make sure that there is either nothing left on my desk, or that other people know about it and and can deal with it on my behalf.
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The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.
Bob Marley. http://kallis3.blogs.iva.co.uk
It is much easier for us to express my painful emotions through anger, so how you are reacting is perfectly normal. It is very stressful but try to enjoy the time you have with him, there will time enough for sadness but for now search out the smiles and enjoy each other's company, make happy memories together xxxx
Ida, we are always here for you and I would just like to say my thoughts are with you and also echo the support others have given. just a thought there will probably be a patient support group at the hospital who would probably be able to get some answers to your questions and also ensure that the correct things are being done. May be worth a phone call.
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