Sparkly, I sat up all last night, I still can't sleep, others here have their own hardships, I know that, been there done that, was almost through it all, how hard is it? 10 months? 4 years DONE, PAID. WE DID IT!
This isn't the place to fall apart in the way I am.
So they accept the reality, thyey say Ok no more IVA, my kids get some toys, decfent shoes and clothes they won't be bullied because of.
Your family should be your main concern at the moment Ida. Getting your husband back on his feet is your number one priority.
Feel free to let rip on here, and open your heart to us - especially if it helps to get it off your chest.
Sharing from experiences of dealing with debt
The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.
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The best place to be when you are feeling low is surrounded by people that care, so this place is just fine for you. I know you are weighed down with matters far more serious than debt right now. It may be that you need to see someone that can help you work through the way you feel regarding your husbands ill health but our hearts and thoughts are with you. xxxx
Ida.. im so sorry hun ive just picked up on your thread. You need to try and stay stong, easier said than done i know. I work alot with head and neck cancer and there is alot of different treatments out there. They will decide on the best, if you have questions start writting them down so when you go and see your consultant you dont forget them.
Be strong hun and look after yourself, again i am so sorry.
xxxx
I can't even begin to tell everyone how touched I genuinely am with the pure kindness and good wishes of people here.
I sat in my chair for the whole of Friday night, posted here early hours of the morning, I think and not only got the advice I needed but the help and overwhelming kindness of everyone here.
I suspect this coming week will be a rather quiet one hospital wise, probably a scan towards the end of it (pure guess there, I don't know anything) so I will work on Tuesday as well as try to make a start on sorting out this IVA thing.They also want to examine it with a laproscope and he will obviously be aneasthetised (sp?) for that, and I suspect that will be the first bit of reality of the situation that will hit me. After that I am assuming "normal" life will be a distant memory for a while.
I am getting the hang of this "one day at a time" thing with surprising ease!
Glad to hear from you - the hosp seem to be getting on with it now and quickly - my wife says that she wont phone her surgeon contact unless you hit a difficulty since they appear not to be letting the grass grow. Keep us informed - please do not be offended by this but we are practising catholics - our PP is saying Mass for you and your husband 6:00am tomorrow morning. I hope you do not mind us asking him to do that.
On Friday I was working in a Catholic school (I am a supply teacher) and the y4 class was perparing fro first confession, their teacher, my friend asked them all to light a candle for my husband each as soon as they got into church. 36, all of them, did. I suspect as they were doing that he was at the hospital.
Ida, I am sorry if my earlier post looks like I was saying see your gp instead of posting on here as that is not the case. I was thinking it might be worth seeing your gp so that you don't make yourself ill trying to cope with everything. Be strong for your family and we are here for you as well. Take Care.
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The support network offered by people on this forum never ceases to amaze me. You are a bunch of truly, wonderful people and I am often humbled by the sheer weight of human kindness which stretches across this land. Your husband will be in my prayers as well Ida.
I think this rollercoaster thing they talk about is very real. Today I honestly feel fine. Powerless but fine. I slept last night and even went back to bed after seeing to the little one who had woken up in the night.
I had a good old wallow in how awful it is, and it is awful, but as always my way of coping is to at least try to make things better in some way.
I'm glad you're feeling better today Ida. Just remember that we are here for you any time you need to let off steam.
We're one big family on here.
Sharing from experiences of dealing with debt
The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.
Bob Marley. http://kallis3.blogs.iva.co.uk
Ida, no need to thank people - we are a family (as someone else said) on here - it is the way we are. You will come through this - candles are very significant to RCs - there will be alot of prayers said for you both.
Ida, my PP has just turned up for his lunch - he can't cook. He has asked me to tell you that on Wednesday at 7;00pm he is holding a Rosary Crusade after Benediction for your husband. You willknow what that is from your experience in an RC School. Abot 600 people will be there so try, if you can, to remember the time.
