Running out of steam.

[Dan.47]

Hi, I am really struggling with things at the moment. Its not the payments, I get by and I know I am not as pushed as some. It is practically everything else that seems to be getting me down. Single and in an IVA is not great. It's not the greatest attribute is it.
" Oh, sorry but any plans you have of making a life with me can you put on hold for the next three years." I am in a job solely to pay my IVA, unrewarding and unsociable. Chronologically, there is light at the end of the tunnel but I feel I am looking in the wrong direction. When I was worried about my debt that's all I thought of but now practically everything else seems to consume my tensions.

Credit might be repaired one day don't know if other things will!

[plasticdaft]

Maybe we could arrange a speed dating night the next time we all get together(strictly for those who use the forum and are single,no trading in old husbands/wives/partners would be allowed!!).

I agree Dan with no money in your pocket to socialise its hard to meet people,and start any relationships.

Can I ask how old you are?

Paul

[Broke of London]

I understand where you're coming from Dan. It is difficult to meet people when you can't afford to socialise or have hobbies. But this is only temporary and you'll be back in the market soon! x

[Shining]

I can imagine how hard it is to be single and young and need to socialise when in an IVA. the others I feel for is the ones with young families. Little children want to go to the seaside the fair etc.,

I'm lucky my children are grown up and I've told my youngest (18) the situation with my finances. When I read abour children growing fast or wanting to go on holidays or out with friends I do feel for the parents. x

[Broke of London]

It does seem hard on young families. There so much peer pressure among children and they all give each other ideas about things to do! x

[KM1512]

The hardest time for me is at Christmas and Birthdays as my daughters friends are getting expensive gifts and disigner clothes and I cannot give that to them but I have promised them as soon as my IVA is finished will be save for the best family holiday before the are to old and don't want to come on holiday with us anymore[:)]

[Broke of London]

Designer clothes for kids say more about the pretensions and insecurities of the parents...you should pity them their lack of confidence.

Holidays and memories are far more important...they'll remember that holiday long after they forget what their friends were wearing in SS12. And you don't need money to create memories!!!

[KM1512]

I agree with what you are saying Broke my daughters treasure the gifts they receive now. The simple things in life mean alot to them and my mum has been so good to them it is great to see the bond they have and sometimes I don't think they would have that close bond only I am in the IVA because they will stay will her at weekends when I have to work extra hours.

[Broke of London]

Closeness with their grandmother is priceless. I honestly believe that everything happens for a reason even if it's well hidden at the time!!

[KM1512]

I now believe that to broke out of a bad situation there will be a positive with it[:)]

[Shining]

I've a strong bond with my granddaughter (8). she's here every other weekend and that is priceless to me. Grandma will I'm sure feel the same.

It is tough I can imagine it is as I know peer pressure is high in children. x

[Broke of London]

That's lovely Lesley. My mum has been spending a lot more time with my sister and nephew recently and loves it! x