Puts things into perspective

[chris.g]

I'm pleased things are looking a bit more positive and so soon. It'll no doubt be a long, hard road to recovery but he has a great sister in you and sounds like there is a good support team in place. Lots of TLC on the cards,
xx

[aguise]

Hi Dee
I wrote along post to you earlier and like a fool I lost it and didnt have time to replace it. Suffice to say with the wonderful support you and your loving family will give, I am sure things will turn well for him.

Ang xx

[barbara.worthington]

dee you truly are a star and i am sure your brother will realise how lucky he is to have such a very special sister, with the love of you and your family i am sure, though it may be slow, your brother will come out of this a stronger person

take care

love barb x

[Dee]

Your're all so lovely. I came on this forum for support with my money problems but it offers so much more.

Thank you x

[chris.g]

That's the great thing, it's a growing community of friends whose members just happen to have money problems.....
xx

[angela18]

I think you're fantastic for doing what you're doing... and it does make you think twice about what is important in life!! don't forget to look after yourself though, when you're putting others first[;)]

[Adam Davies]

Hi Dee
Family are so important and as you say it puts everything in perspective.Your brother is lucky to have such a caring and compassionate sister
Regards

[Skippy]

That's why I've stayed around so long Dee and Chris - you are all so friendly and I'd miss you all if I didn't come on here!

[Soulgrowth]

This is such a familiar story in this day and age of disparate families and people moving around so nuch from their roots. I see the end consequences of this so much in my role.

I am ussing this poem at a service toady ... for the end result of a similar situation, I hope you don't mind me posting it here admin * , but I thought herein lies a message for us all.

IF I ONLY KNEW

If I knew it would be the last time that I’d see you fall asleep, I would tuck you in more tightly and pray the Lord, your soul to keep.
If I knew it would be the last time that I see you walk out the door, I would give you a hug and kiss and call you back for one more.
If I knew it would be the last time I’d hear your voice lifted up in praise, I would video tape each action and word, so I could play them back day after day.
If I knew it would be the last time I could spare an extra minute to stop and say “I love you,” instead of assuming you would KNOW I do.
If I knew it would be the last time I would be there to share your day, well I’m sure you’ll have so many more, so I can let just this one slip away.
For surely there’s always tomorrow to make up for an oversight, and we always get a second chance to make everything just right.
There will always be another day to say “I love you,” and certainly there’s another chance to say our “Anything I can do?”
But just in case I might be wrong, and today is all I get, I’d like to say how much I love you and I hope we never forget.
Tomorrow is not promised to anyone, young or old alike, and today may be the last chance you get to hold your loved one tight.
So if you’re waiting for tomorrow, why not do it today? For if tomorrow never comes, you’ll surely regret the day that you didn’t take that extra time for a smile, or a kiss and you were too busy to grant someone, what turned out to be their one last wish.
So hold your loved ones close today, and whisper in their ear, tell them how much you love them and that you’ll always hold them dear.
Take time to say “I’m sorry,” “Please forgive me, “Thank you,” or “it’s okay.”
And if tomorrow never comes, you’ll have no regrets about today

*Not at all, its beautiful, many thanks [:)]
admin

[angela18]

oh debbie.. thats beautiful, and its oh so true!!

You should grab today with both hands because its true you never know whats around the corner!!

[buttercup]

Dee

what a story my heart goes out to you & your bro big time. I hope it all goes well

SoulGrowth that was a lovely poem & bought tears to my eyes .
I always said if i knew what was around the corner i would not get up in the morning. One thing debt has taught me is to now really enjoy what I have got.[:)]

[chris.g]

Debbie, your poem had me in floods of tears. If only we could have one more chance to tell people how much they meant and still mean to us, how busy we would be!!! [:)]

[Skippy]

I started to read it and started to cry so I never got to the end. It brought back too many memories of my dad.

[Dee]

Just thought I'd give you an update. I took my brother to the doctors yesterday and she gave him some anti-depressants. I have to administer them daily and hide them. He was also perscribed some tablet to repair the damaged he has done to his stomach linig which is causing him a great deal of pain. He is really wanting this medication to work cause he feels that he cant go on as he is. I've really enjoyed his company and he said that he is kicking himself that we haven't spent more time together over the years.

I went to meet his children yesterday (I haven't seem them since they were babies) they are a bit uncontrolable but gorgeous all the same. I have invited them over on Sunday so that he can spend some quality time with them before he goes down to stay with my Mum.

He speaks to Mum everyday and he never has a bad word to say about her although I feel that she has very much let him down while he was growing up. He tells her everytime he talks to her that he loves her. Unfortunatley I know that my mum will never be able to be the Mum he needs and I think that when he learns to accept this as we have and understands that he is not responsible for her actions then he will heal.

I'm back at work today and my sister has taken the day off work to be with him. It feels a bit weird and I'm missing him already.

Soulgrowth - The poem you posted is beautiful and I live by its sentiments. Some people think I'm too soft/forgiving etc but I have my reasons for behaving as I do and your poem sums it up perfectly.

Dee

[sblack]

Dee,
It is nice to hear that you seem to be handling these difficult situations so well, remaining strong and supportive at the same time.
Best wishes to you and all your family.