Keeping the romance going in an IVA

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Post by relieved33 » Wed Mar 16, 2011 5:01 pm
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Had flowers off hubby last night for the first time in months!!! Tesco had reduced all the flowers to 10p a bunch! Have three vases of fresh flowers in the house day and I smile everytime I look at them. Hubby said it felt good to buy them as he misses buying me things for no reason.

Just wondered what other people working to a budget do to keep the romance going?
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Post by Pandy » Wed Mar 16, 2011 6:18 pm
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We have been together 27 years are we still supposed to be romantic...[:0][:D]



We talk a lot and hold hands when we sit on the sofa in the evenings, we also give each other random unexpected kisses. [:)][:)] He never has bought me flowers if he did I would wonder why!
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Post by MrsKnight » Wed Mar 16, 2011 6:36 pm
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Hi relieved - Whats romance?! Sorry only joking.
Me n the hubby are just not the romantic type, been together 10 years n having children for the last 8 kinda puts romance out of the question!

We do have a night every so often where we chill out chat n have a drink or 3! Im currently trying to teach hubby how to text on his Iphone so he CAN text me when he is at work.
We have been through so much we dont take each other for granted n have finaly found a balance of respecting what each other does for each other. (learning how to use the washing machine is next on the agenda) he! he! And if he bought me flowers - I would wonder why too!
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Post by Shining » Wed Mar 16, 2011 8:42 pm
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Romance? In his own way he cares but I read too much and watch too much TV and expect it to be like that....it isn't and could be disappointed if I thought about it too much but I don't and we do our own thing. If I was a fish or a football I'd get lots of attention! lol x
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Post by olympic_torch » Wed Mar 16, 2011 9:34 pm
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31 years for me and mrs torch this year, i still buy flowers and the occasional bag of revels. But she knows i'm only staying till Kelly Brook returns my calls.
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Post by Shining » Wed Mar 16, 2011 9:36 pm
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lol @ OT!

I'm just going to change my name to Wanda and wear a West Ham shirt all the time!
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Post by olympic_torch » Wed Mar 16, 2011 9:41 pm
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Well, actually, she did return my calls. She told me to clear off or she would ring the police.
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Post by Shining » Wed Mar 16, 2011 9:49 pm
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[:D]
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Post by kallis3 » Wed Mar 16, 2011 10:58 pm
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No romance in this house at all! Married for 24 years, been together on and off for 33. The last time I had flowers was 18th December 1992, I only get a birthday and Christmas card because I send him one and we don't do anniversary's at all! Valentines Day is just viewed as a big rip off. We don't sit together - I'm usually in the dining room on the laptop and he is in the living room watching the TV.

We do get on extremely well though, have no secrets anymore and are best friends.
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Post by lem » Thu Mar 17, 2011 6:35 pm
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We're not romantic in the slightest, hubby is, or would be if i let him but I am just not into all that sickly mush I'm afraid

We have been together for 16 years now and are soulmates and best friends, I wouldn't be without him, romance for us is holding hands at the top of a mountain summit!
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Post by Shining » Thu Mar 17, 2011 6:50 pm
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That is nice romance lem, I know my hubby loves me in his way, it's just not a conventional way x
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Post by kallis3 » Thu Mar 17, 2011 10:47 pm
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My hubby does not do slush at all! We never hold hands but I know he loves me.
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Post by stewpots » Fri Mar 18, 2011 8:01 pm
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relieved33 wrote:

Had flowers off hubby last night for the first time in months!!! Tesco had reduced all the flowers to 10p a bunch! Have three vases of fresh flowers in the house day and I smile everytime I look at them. Hubby said it felt good to buy them as he misses buying me things for no reason.

Just wondered what other people working to a budget do to keep the romance going?
I always thank her in doors when she brings my breakfast, lunch, dinner. My cups of tea and snacks.

I lift my legs when she is hoovering and make sure my washing is always there for her to do.

and they say romance is dead

[:D]
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Post by Foggy » Fri Mar 18, 2011 8:07 pm
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I bought myself an i-pad once, got the littl'un an i-pod and the old romantic in me bought the missus an i-ron .... didn't go down as well as I'd hoped !
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Post by Shining » Fri Mar 18, 2011 8:12 pm
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lol @ Foggy!

We were watching a demonstration in a supermarket today for a knife and my daughter said 'do you want a knife for Mothers Day'...mmmm NO!
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