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Post by kallis3 » Fri Jul 01, 2011 8:32 pm
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I know I had been divorced from my ex for 31 years but to be told of his death today was a complete shock as he was only two years older than me and it was totally amicable.

To make matter worse, I contacted his daughter via FB and she didn't even know he had been married before until after his death.

I really feel for her - she was an only child and is now on her own as her mother died earlier in the year.
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Post by Shining » Fri Jul 01, 2011 8:35 pm
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Sorry to read this Jan, it must have been a shock. Hopefully his daughter will be ok. Very sad x
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Post by Julie » Fri Jul 01, 2011 8:43 pm
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Sorry to hear this news Jan - hope you can offer some comfort to his daughter xx
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Post by kallis3 » Fri Jul 01, 2011 8:54 pm
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I would like to think so but the ball is in her court now. I contacted her via FB and I imsgine it must have come as a shock to her - he must have kept the marriage certificate/divorce papers as I certainly didn't.

We didn't survive much past three years - faults on both sides. I do regret his passing though - 59 is no age is it?
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Post by Shining » Fri Jul 01, 2011 9:05 pm
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No age at all. Give her time and maybe she'll contact you to fill in a few blanks one day x
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Post by kallis3 » Fri Jul 01, 2011 9:16 pm
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It isn't - it just came as as a complete shock - we had no contact from when I went to the house to collect my personal stuff until now. My daughter has always been aware of the fact that I was married before. Obviously he didn't want his daughter to know altough I think his wife must have known.

I was the one who left in the first place but there were faults on both sides. Still sad that he has died though.
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Post by MrsKnight » Fri Jul 01, 2011 10:42 pm
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Sorry to hear that Jan,

Things like this certainly make you look at life & be grateful for what you have. I'm sure the daughter will be in touch, I can't begin to imagine what she is going through xxxx
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Post by Struzzo39 » Sat Jul 02, 2011 2:14 pm
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it certainly does make you apreciate things more. My own mum would of been 51 today. Its the silly things that make me miss her all the more.
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Post by kallis3 » Sat Jul 02, 2011 2:27 pm
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Oddly enough, I am now friends with his daughter on FB! Even more spooky, she shares the same birthday as me!

Struzzo - your mum was a youngster! How awful for you losing her at such a young age.

I'm thankful mine are still going at 87 and 83, I consider myself lucky!
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