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Posted: Wed Mar 21, 2012 7:32 am
by ditzydoodle
Worked out last night how old i will be when my IVA finishes assuming i get it. Depressed or what ? Anyway, i text a good friend to tell her and I needed to tell someone cos i wasnt feeling too good about my mess. Wish I hadnt.......all she said was that I wasnt the only one and thats its a fact of life !!
How supportive is that ??
Anyway, the point im getting to is thank goodness for this forum, people who understand and dont judge
Thank you
Posted: Wed Mar 21, 2012 7:46 am
by kallis3
Quite agree which is why I don't tell anyone.
To make you possibly feel better - I will be 60/61 by the time mine finishes and hubby will be 67!
Posted: Wed Mar 21, 2012 7:57 am
by ditzydoodle
Oh Jan, sorry to say but that does make me feel better !! Ill be 54 possibly 55 if i have to add a year on due to re-mortgage !!
Crikey, hope that hasnt made you feel bad now ??
Posted: Wed Mar 21, 2012 8:08 am
by kallis3
No, I've had enough time to.get used to it!! Plus I'll be able to retire and I can't wait for that!!
Posted: Wed Mar 21, 2012 8:12 am
by ditzydoodle
what a lovely prospect !! I have told a couple of very close friends because im on my own and felt i could do with their support......there is one i know i cant count on tho.....shant be telling her anymore about it !!
Posted: Wed Mar 21, 2012 8:21 am
by kallis3
My daughter, her husband and my stepkids know and that's all. People at work certainly wouldn't understand and I don't have any really close friends other than those I've made on the forum and they already know!!
Posted: Wed Mar 21, 2012 8:25 am
by footiemad
I will be 59/60 and hubby 52/53 (I have a toy-boy) xx Happy days!!!!
Posted: Wed Mar 21, 2012 8:26 am
by ditzydoodle
Ooh where can I get me one if those ? X
Posted: Wed Mar 21, 2012 8:27 am
by vimto1029
Ditzy..we are all here for you!
x
Posted: Wed Mar 21, 2012 8:49 am
by ditzydoodle
thanks vimto x
Posted: Wed Mar 21, 2012 9:22 am
by Skeef143
Crikey.... there was me feeling slightly depressed about the fact I will be 49 two weeks before I finish paying!!! [:D]
Posted: Wed Mar 21, 2012 9:37 am
by Pandy
I will be 52 1/2 when ours finishes, hubby will be 66 1/2.
Cant wait, only 3 years to go.
Posted: Wed Mar 21, 2012 10:05 am
by vimto1029
I'll be 36/37..not sure if thats a good thing or bad thing really...good in that i'm still young (ish) or bad thinking that I've had to do an IVA at such a young age?! :-S
Posted: Wed Mar 21, 2012 10:15 am
by Tina Shortland
I tihnk whatever age you'll all be you'll definitely feel a younger spring in your step once its all over!
Shame you didn't get more of a supportive response from your friend Ditzy - but it could have been worse too - I guess she might have been trying to normalise it but it would have been nice for her to realise what upset and worry you are going through. I have known of some people having really horrible judgemental response from friends and relatives - that is always upsetting to hear as its just so unfair. Money messes are just that, money messes - nothing to do with someone's personality, values or worth as a person. Judgement and insensitivity are far bigger weaknesses in a person than getting the finances in a muddle.
thats my weekly soapbox moment out of the way!
Posted: Wed Mar 21, 2012 10:21 am
by kallis3
Well said Tina!!