Posted: Sat May 31, 2008 11:16 pm
Hi All
During this month, I posted messages on here about looking into an IVA or BR.. and to be really honest I was totally worried, stressed what people might think.
After chatting with someone from Melanies team and getting a true budget written out, it made me realise that we needed help, at the moment we have our head above water, ie all bills and loans paid, very little money left, but its ours and Im in a career with tied accommodation that I cant stand anymore and need to get out soon.
One thing was certain after talking to Melanies team, I told my wife that I could no long do an 18 hour day, 5 days aweek and she would have to assist and take some of this burden off me, even if it means working evenings or weekends.
I proceeded to ask my mom for help, ie afew months stay at her house until my wife and I got jobs, enough for the budget we'd worked out and enough for rent.
She wasnt that forthcoming at first, even now she thinks the best idea is not to live at her house as world war 3 would insue between my wife and her.
My wife has already stated that she didnt want this really and it would end up with her leaving with my 2 children...[V][:(][:(!]
Now there is a glimmer of hope, next week I have two interviews for jobs I wanna do in my new chosen career and it would mean an increase in my annual salary by another 6.5k to 8 k [:D] so I'm hoping that all goes well.
I still worry about changing careers and what if it doesnt work out, then Im really up the creek without a paddle, but maybe thats whats been wrong, having it to cushie and not been taking any risks.
Should this work then there is no need for an IVA or BR, this doesnt mean that I will live the life of luxary, still gonna have to keep a tight hold on the pennies for afew more years[|)] but I will still keep IVA option should I need it.
And I am still gonna be pushing my wife to get a part time job to boost the family income....
So as we come to the end of this post bag, I wish everyone luck and I will still hang about to offer any advise on subjects that come up
During this month, I posted messages on here about looking into an IVA or BR.. and to be really honest I was totally worried, stressed what people might think.
After chatting with someone from Melanies team and getting a true budget written out, it made me realise that we needed help, at the moment we have our head above water, ie all bills and loans paid, very little money left, but its ours and Im in a career with tied accommodation that I cant stand anymore and need to get out soon.
One thing was certain after talking to Melanies team, I told my wife that I could no long do an 18 hour day, 5 days aweek and she would have to assist and take some of this burden off me, even if it means working evenings or weekends.
I proceeded to ask my mom for help, ie afew months stay at her house until my wife and I got jobs, enough for the budget we'd worked out and enough for rent.
She wasnt that forthcoming at first, even now she thinks the best idea is not to live at her house as world war 3 would insue between my wife and her.
My wife has already stated that she didnt want this really and it would end up with her leaving with my 2 children...[V][:(][:(!]
Now there is a glimmer of hope, next week I have two interviews for jobs I wanna do in my new chosen career and it would mean an increase in my annual salary by another 6.5k to 8 k [:D] so I'm hoping that all goes well.
I still worry about changing careers and what if it doesnt work out, then Im really up the creek without a paddle, but maybe thats whats been wrong, having it to cushie and not been taking any risks.
Should this work then there is no need for an IVA or BR, this doesnt mean that I will live the life of luxary, still gonna have to keep a tight hold on the pennies for afew more years[|)] but I will still keep IVA option should I need it.
And I am still gonna be pushing my wife to get a part time job to boost the family income....
So as we come to the end of this post bag, I wish everyone luck and I will still hang about to offer any advise on subjects that come up