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Life is ticking along and whilst at the moment, there's nothing much spare, we've at least got enough to pay the bills and eat.
My ex, who doesn't pay maintainence, sees my youngest son and despite pleas of not being able to afford maintainence, has just taken him to a Chelsea football match, brought him a top and headphones at £70......yet when I ask for a contribution towards college fees I am met with abuse!
Don't get me wrong, I'm grateful that he does spend money on my son but how can he then plead poverty if I ask for money for college etc?
I feel bad enough that I can't do those things myself.....I don't need the ex's help to feel worse than I do!

Hi Ruth. I am afraid, finances apart, the Absent parent gets the kudos for buying things and going places, that the parent with care simply cannot manage. What we get is the taking to school/ sending them to college, making sure they do their homework / set course work, and do numerous other things they have to do ( when they don't want to!).