Posted: Sat Jan 11, 2014 12:20 am
				
				I started my IVA in December and have been separated from my husband since March 2010, divorce will be final in two weeks. One of my creditors is Lloyd's £15k for a loan and £2.5k for an overdraft. These were in joint names and now I've entered this IVA I have had letters to my house for my ex demanding immediate payment in full. 
He suffers terribly from depression and anxiety and am terrified of bringing this up with him. Especially seeing as half the debt is mine, how can they pursue him for the full amount? He has always laid half of the monthly payment since we separated and I have told I was struggling to meet my half so I had entered a voluntary agreement with Lloyd's to get the payment down but haven't actually said IVA. He has offered to pay half the new amount as well but I haven't taken him up on this yet out of guilt. I dont think he'd be a candidate for an IVA as he is living with his parents so has quite a low cost of living I would imagine. I really don't know how to broach this with him. I'd really prefer to go to him with the problem but also the solution as I do wholeheartedly believe it may tip him over the edge.
We have an amicable divorce which is so good for our two children and I really don't want to rock the boat for their sakes. I know I'm rambling and you probably can't offer any advice but I'm losing so much sleep over this and to be honest it feels good to actually speak to someone about it.
			He suffers terribly from depression and anxiety and am terrified of bringing this up with him. Especially seeing as half the debt is mine, how can they pursue him for the full amount? He has always laid half of the monthly payment since we separated and I have told I was struggling to meet my half so I had entered a voluntary agreement with Lloyd's to get the payment down but haven't actually said IVA. He has offered to pay half the new amount as well but I haven't taken him up on this yet out of guilt. I dont think he'd be a candidate for an IVA as he is living with his parents so has quite a low cost of living I would imagine. I really don't know how to broach this with him. I'd really prefer to go to him with the problem but also the solution as I do wholeheartedly believe it may tip him over the edge.
We have an amicable divorce which is so good for our two children and I really don't want to rock the boat for their sakes. I know I'm rambling and you probably can't offer any advice but I'm losing so much sleep over this and to be honest it feels good to actually speak to someone about it.