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				Posted: Tue Nov 01, 2011 6:27 pm
				by Tuta78
				I completed my IVA through F&F on 15 Nov. 2010, I moved out and rented a small place, do not feel the pressure of debts anymore, but my attitude towards spending has not changed, I can shop on unnecessary items and stay for days on bread and tuna and salad, my question to luluj, how did carry on saving and not spending. thanks
			 
			
					
				
				Posted: Tue Nov 01, 2011 6:32 pm
				by kallis3
				Luluj has had some inheritance which enabled her to sort out her IVA and manage to get a mortgage.
I think she is just being frugal with her spending.
			 
			
					
				
				Posted: Tue Nov 01, 2011 6:45 pm
				by nepensioner
				Hi Tuta
I too did a F & F last October, and a lot has happened to me this year including moving house.  I too have become an ardent saver.  A budget was done for me by Mel incase I decided to go down the five year route and have religiously stuck to this. to such an extent that when I went to the FF in July, I took ham sandwiches to save me the cost of breakfast[:I]For the first time in my life I am planning/saving/doing in that order.  I never want to be in that dark place again, although if I am honest its not been easy. but so worthwhile...
			 
			
					
				
				Posted: Tue Nov 01, 2011 7:18 pm
				by Broke of London
				Hi Tuta, I feel for you because I'm the same. I have an obsessive/ addictive streak that makes me spend on silly things and then not have enough to eat properly! Do you have someone who can hold onto your savings for you? x
			 
			
					
				
				Posted: Tue Nov 01, 2011 7:39 pm
				by kallis3
				One thing I do make sure of is that there is enough to eat in the house.   I think my days of impulsive purchases (and I've had a few!!) are well and truly over!!
			 
			
					
				
				Posted: Tue Nov 01, 2011 8:45 pm
				by nepensioner
				I'm the same Jan, what I need and what I want are two different things, but I do need food!!
			 
			
					
				
				Posted: Tue Nov 01, 2011 8:46 pm
				by kallis3
				Too right!!!!
			 
			
					
				
				Posted: Tue Nov 01, 2011 8:50 pm
				by luluj
				Sorry for not replying but been diagnosed yesterday with 4 prolapsed discs in my back and was a little in shock somewhat !
Since our IVA finished we have continued to live to our IVA budget .... all extra money has been put towards savings either via an ISA account, a pension pot for hubby or for general savings / car maintenance - we have allowed £200 per month for DIY and ad hoc extra's such as additional car maintenance etc but we that is all.
Yes I did inherit to enable the house purchase, but once the deposit was paid we have lived on our salaries.
It is a matter of strong willed and determination to prove to our famlies we will not go their again!
We enjoy a drink or two at the weekends, and occasionally have the meal out ..... we have booked a holiday abroad for two weeks next year, but only when I had saved enough to pay for it in cash.....
Hope this helps !
			 
			
					
				
				Posted: Tue Nov 01, 2011 9:02 pm
				by Shining
				Oh luluj not good, I can imagine the shock.  
I wish I could say my impulsive spending days were over but I don't think they are, luckily I don't have the funds to test myself but I don't consider myself rehabilitated ...yet. x
			 
			
					
				
				Posted: Tue Nov 01, 2011 9:08 pm
				by kallis3
				Would your impulsive buys come at the expense of food though Lesley?  Mine certainly wouldn't.
			 
			
					
				
				Posted: Tue Nov 01, 2011 9:12 pm
				by Shining
				ooh no Jan...food a very important part of my life.  I can cut down on food purchases to manage some weeks if necessary but never sacrifice.
			 
			
					
				
				Posted: Tue Nov 01, 2011 9:15 pm
				by kallis3
				We can cut down sometmes but there's always been enough food in the house for us to eat properly.
			 
			
					
				
				Posted: Wed Nov 02, 2011 10:13 am
				by tuta
				thanks to all of you, I do not have  have someone who can hold onto my savings for me. I avoid go to high street shops, when I do disaster happens. I tried to put my money in a saving tin, after a while I open it and my shopping appitite come back dancing.councelling did not work what else can I do?
			 
			
					
				
				Posted: Wed Nov 02, 2011 10:18 am
				by kallis3
				Only take out as much as you will need for your weeks shopping, that might help.  Just go straight to the supermarket with a list and stick to it.
You could try hypnotherapy.
			 
			
					
				
				Posted: Wed Nov 02, 2011 10:37 am
				by taliesin
				I admit I still tend to impulse buy. Since my CofC has taken a long time to get produced due to my creditors not sumbitting claims, my IP allowed me to get a Credit Card with a small limit on it to start the rebuld process of my credit rating. I ensure that any impulse buys are done on that card - so I can't go crazy,and have arranged for a full payment of it to come out of my bank on every payday, and refused every credit limit increase they have offered.