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Hello All.

I am trying to help someone who is having a battle with her ex. In a nutshell he is threating to reduce the weekly amount he has been giving her, they have no agreement but she is working on this. What I am trying to do is work out how much a week she and her daughter should be getting.


She is not paying rent or bills but before you all say wow shes on to a good thing !! she gets 130.00 this is for her and her daughter. So what on the list should we include.I have put down all the obvious about food and such but also things like hair cut, school uniforms, pocket money, medicine.

If you have any advice as to what the guidlines are and what amount this should be I would be very happy to hear from you. The ex lives in a 900k house, just spent 120k on a new double garrage, new jaguar and has just had a swimming pool built !!


He knows that if she went to the CSA they would say she is getting too much or thats what he thinks but would she?

I know this is not really the forum for this but aspects of the allowances could help me here.

Hope you are all well.



thanks

I can't help I'm afraid but my son does pay via the CSA for his twins and it's taken direct from his wages by his choice as so many allegations were being made blaming him for not paying when he was but didn't have proof.

Maybe a solicitor could help? x

As far as I know she should be getting a percentage of her ex's salary. Even if she doesn't want to go to the CSA it might be worth having a look on their website for the guidelines.

you need to take a look at the CSA web site. there is a section there that works out what your maintenance payments should be based on partners income. however if someone is self employed and does not put most of their income through a bank account, has no assets and changes address frequently, you get nothing even with the csa involved, as i have found!!

A friend of mine had to go through the CSA to get maintenance from her ex and it took a long time to get it sorted out. She now gets the money by way of an attachment of earnings so it was worth the hassle in the long run.

Thanks to all who have responded

Let us know how they get on ashb - might be useful for other posters on here.

Unfortunatley my brother has to go down this route and he used the online calculator on the CSA website as a guideline.

I hope the CSA are more pro-active than they used to be - I never received a penny from my ex, despite reporting his working whereabouts to the CSA on a daily basis.

its normally 20 percent of their earnings so the higher he earns the more he will pay i use the csa and cant really fault them what i do get annoyed about his my maintenance for my children has reduced because my ex lives with a woman who has two kids grrrrr sorrry rant over lol!

Rant all you like Kerry! That's what we are here for.

Don't see why your ex should be liable for his new partners kids - that should be down to her ex partner!

it would seem the csa are excellent when the absent parent is cooperative or when they are an employee. if its more complicated they dont want to know. they actually told me it would be better if i pursued payments myself, because just as i find it difficult to get hold of my ex husband so would they!!

sorry for your situation kat68 its really frustrating isnt it sometimes you just feel like your fighting a constant battle and it shouldnt be like that when kids are concerned

That's not good. My hubby has two kids from his previous marriage and we were of an age when it went through the courts - a much fairer system and we paid our way until they were old enough to sort themselves out but we knew that if we ever stopped paying there would be hell to pay.

Should go back to that rather than a company who can't cope and haven't a clue what they are doing!

i agree jan at least each individual case would be looked at properly and not just whether or not certain boxes have been ticked or not

Exactly! It worked for us, and fortunately we all got on so any problems were sorted out between us and his ex. We were lucky in that respect.